Watching Love

I’m at Crown and Pearl right now, just watching love, and it’s making me so calm and happy.
Two people I barely know are slow dancing in a room where it’s only me and them. I’m perched on the DJ box looking down over the place I adore, and no one’s speaking. And I feel no [...]

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Friends to Lovers

A few days back a Second Life friend asked me a question about his real life: Should he risk turning a friendship into a love affair? It’s a question I’ve been asked by a lot of both Second Life and real life friends. The risks involved are many – maybe the person doesn’t feel the [...]

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Polygamy and SL

There is no shortage of people in SL who either practice polygamy, or claim to believe in it as normal and do-able. My initial reaction to this is that as adults we can freely agree to enter whatever relationships we like with each other – if you meet someone else who thinks it’s great and knowingly enters [...]

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Time Intensity

There is something unusual about SL that makes sense the more you contemplate it. It’s what I’m going to call “time intensity”. In SL a week feels the equivalent to about a month in RL. This is true of friendships and relationships in particular.
It’s very easy to strike up what feels like an intense and genuine [...]

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